"What makes a relationship work?"
Why is the divorce rate in the United States over 50 percent? Most experts agree that time, intimacy, money are the biggest obstacles for marriages.
Poor communication and lack of conflict resolution skills are usually manifest due to the lack of time committed to these needs. If we don't take the time to make a commitment to the marriage, we shouldn't be surprised when it gets into trouble.
No marriage can long endure if there is no intimacy. A lack of intimacy can result in failed expectations or unmet needs of one or both parties. When there's no intimacy, it's easy for your priorities to drift in totally different directions. Unmet needs and different priorities can lead to infidelity.
No time to talk and truly understand each other's needs; no intimate relationship and different priorities can easily lead to financial problems. Without collaboration and a strong focus on common goals, resources are often squandered.
Time, intimacy and money touch all the major physical and emotional needs of individuals and couples.
The church in the United States is not growing; it's not even keeping up with the population growth. Between 1991 to today the US population has grown about 15%, while the unchurched population has grown 92% and the average church has declined over 47%. Why? Most experts agree that time, intimacy and money are the biggest obstacles for churches.
Poor communication between church leaders and church members usually results from a lack of time committed to these needs. When problems arise, we need to devote time to problem resolution. If we don't take the time to make a commitment to our church, we shouldn't be surprised when it gets into trouble.
No church can long endure if there is no intimacy. Intimacy in the church includes familiarity with each other, closeness, understanding and a confident and trusting relationship. A lack of intimacy can result in failed expectations or unmet needs of church leaders and members. When there's no intimacy, it's easy for our priorities to drift in totally different directions. Unmet needs and different priorities can lead to infidelity - turning our faces from the cross to the world.
No real communication, no intimacy and different priorities can easily lead to financial problems. Without collaboration and a strong commitment to common goals, resources are often squandered or withheld.
Time, intimacy and money touch all the major physical and emotional needs of Christ's church.
What else is common between marriages and churches that are in trouble today? Let's ask that question another way. What else should be common between marriages and churches to keep them out of trouble today?
"For who among men knows the thoughts of a man except the man's spirit within him? In the same way no one knows the thoughts of God except the Spirit of God." (1st Corinthians 2:11)
We cannot have communion with each other or with the Father without the Spirit. We cannot have intimacy without the Spirit who opens our hearts to the truth.
It is no accident that our Lord contrasted His relationship with the church to that of a bride and groom (Matthew 25:1-13, John 3:28-30, Ephesians 5:23, Revelations 22:17). "Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires." (Romans 8:5)
If we want a successful marriage, or a successful church, we must be led by the Spirit; we must believe in the name of Jesus Christ and love one another as He commanded us. If we obey His commands and live in Him, He will lives in us: We will know it by the Spirit he gave us - a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.
“Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus.” - Philippians 2:5